Where is Your Whimsy?

What kind of question is that?!  Where is my Whimsy?  Do you know all that I have to do in a day?!!  Who has time for whimsy?  Work is overwhelming!  My house is a complete mess - a disaster!  We have no food in the house and we are having my husband's family over for a barbecue tomorrow.  It feels like if I am not at work, I am chauffeuring my kids to their sports, friends' houses or school events.  My dad's lab results won't be ready until next week and I am worried that it won't be good news.  Did I mention that we just got a new puppy?  The worse part is that all around me, people are saying that I should relax.  Relaxing won't pay the bills, fold the laundry or get my daughter's hair styled for her dance recital.

She has a point.  Asking an overwhelmed, overstressed, under-appreciated woman "Where is your whimsy?" might make her feel like she is being pushed over the edge.  Although, that might be a good thing.  Hanging on the edge is a precarious way to live.  When you feel like you are living a life dangerously lacking in security or stability, you need to pick a side.  You have to realize, that you are truly are not helping anyone by being a frazzled martyr.  Choose grabbing onto what you know, like your faith, family and friends - ask for help.  The other option is choosing to fall.  Eventually you will land, take time to heal, and then you are free to begin again...smarter this time.  Like Maya Angelou said, "When you know better, you do better."

Let's try asking the question again...  Where is your Whimsy?  Did you join your kids on the swings or go down the slide when they were playing at the park today?  While driving did you sing along to the radio and make up lyrics to the songs you didn't know?  Did you giggle while you watched you new puppy try to chew on a giant bone?  While on hold waiting to talk to a client at work, did you doodle silly faces on your notepad?  Did you laugh hysterically while playing Wii Dance with your girlfriends?  How did you hold back your laughter, as you looked at your family's faces as you sat down to dinner wearing a tiara?

The more you look, the more you will find your Whimsy.  Where is YOUR Whimsy?

What is a Whimsical Sol?

Being a Whimsical Sol is an attitude...a way of life...and we are always changing, growing and mixing things up a bit - in a good way.  :)

The whole idea of  Whimsical Sols, originated from trying to follow my life motto:  "Live the Life You Love."  It's a catchy little phrase that surprisingly, few people think to follow.  We get so wrapped up in our to-do lists and day to day responsibilities, that we often forget to pay attention to what we are actually doing, saying and thinking.  We started as young dreamers preparing for an exciting life and ended up as labels:  Mom, Wife, Sister, Career Woman, Friend, Lover, Neighbor, Volunteer, Daughter...and the list goes on and on.  The labels are not the problem; it is when our entire identity is in that label.  Sometimes we even end up living on auto-pilot and slowly become invisible in our labeled roles.

When I started to pay attention to the choices I was making and living more and more in the moment, a funny thing happened.  I started to feel like "me" again.  I was happier and just more comfortable in my own skin.  I some how started to accept my eccentricities, flaws and even failures.  The things about me that I tried to hide for so many years, turned out not to be not so bad after all.  It is okay if I am different, because actually that makes me unique.  :)

So, of course after ridding myself of labels, I created another one...Whimsical Sol.  This one is less of a label and more of a way of life.  It better suits me and so many woman I know.  Here's what it means:

Whimsical:  Playfully fanciful, esp. in an appealing and amusing way and often unpredictable  (Who doesn't want to be like that?!)

Sol:  is Spanish for sun (brilliant shining light), but it is also a little play on words, for soul.  (We love to have the light within us shine through and try to make the world a better place.) 

When you put those two definitions together and add a little personality, you end up with a Whimsical Sol.  I also like to use 3 words to define a Whimsical Sol.  Keep in mind, that these are chosen on a whim and they are sometimes quick to change.  Some examples are:  Dazzling, Daring, Dreamer or Spontaneous, Bright, Giving.

What 3 words would you use to describe yourself today? 

What 3 words do you want to use to describe yourself? 

I think I will stop and ponder to answer those questions for myself.